Do you sometime wonder your relationship is falling apart? How can I make the relationship healthy? Here are a few steps to get back on track:
1. Nurture yourself.
Relationship is about giving, but don’t make
the mistake of giving too much. To have a good relationship, you need to
be a good you. Learn how to prioritize and put boundaries
around activities that keep you healthy and whole—activities like rest,
relaxation, fitness and time with friends. In other words, remember
that scheduling “me” time into your day is not selfish, it’s a
necessity. It will strengthen your relationship because you’ll have a
saner version of “you” to bring to the “us” equation.
2. Define your problems. Spend some time looking at your
relationship and figure out which parts work and which parts don’t. You should take a moment to imagine a perfect day in your
perfect relationship. How would you and your
partner interact? Then create a plan of how you might get from point A
(your current reality) to point B (that perfect day). You should write it down if
you need to.
3.Reconnect Lovingly
Reconnect with your partner, and maybe even fall in love again.
4. Remind yourself you have a choice to stay in a relationship. Many
people stay in troubled relationship because they believe they have no
other choice. “They think that they are stuck, and they blame this
sensation of being stuck on their lover. But if you are stuck, it’s
your fault and not your lover's. The truth is, you are
not stuck; you have choices. The three choices are: Do nothing and remain
miserable; face your fears and try to save your relationship; break up Choose to either stay in relationship or not. You should make a choice. And wake up
every morning and make that choice again. The surest path to happiness
is knowing that you are not a helpless damsel in distress, but rather a
woman or man who can make her/his own decisions. You have the choice to live
happily ever after.
